Today one in two couples co-habit before they marry, while the number
of couples living together has increased more than ten fold in the last
thirty years. Those who consider themselves “religious” are
also following the same trend with between two and three out of five
couples living together before marriage. In Before You Live Together,
Dr. Dave Gudgel examines the reasons and results of living together before
marriage. Although the majority of people think cohabitating is a good
idea, the statistics show that it is not. With caring and thoughtful
insight, through real life stories, Gudgel helps singles and dating couples
make a wise and informed choice about living together before marriage.
While this book presents relevant facts and statistics and biblical values
in a compelling and loving way, it never lectures, but instead seeks
to help you decide what is best. Read it for yourself. Read it with the
one you love. Read it to make the right decision at the time when it
Dave Gudgel’s book is packed with timely wisdom and warm encouragement.
If you’re contemplating a life together or if you counsel couples
who are, you’ll find life-changing insights in these pages. I highly
recommend Before You Live Together.
Author, New York Times bestseller The Prayer of Jabez
Dave Gudgel offers some thought-provoking, humorous and biblical reasons
to follow God’s blueprint for a romantic relationship. If couples
want to do marriage right and make it last, they would do well to read Before
You Live Together.
If you’re holding this book because a friend gave it to you – count
that person as an exceptional friend. If you just picked it up – count
yourself very wise for buying it and poring through its pages. From my
You Live Together is a book that those of us in the counseling field
have needed for years. From your perspective, it will give you the wisdom
and sound counsel you will need to answer the hard questions on whether
living together really works and makes sense. Before you make the decision
to live together, read this book.
Dave Gudgel has crafted an excellent resource for anyone who is involved
in counseling young couples. I appreciate his honesty and attention to
carefully gathered statistics. Before You Live Together is a
very helpful book!
Best-selling author, The Christy Miller Series for Teens and
the Glenbrooke Series
My friend Dave Gudgel has written a very sensible and sensitive book
on a very important issue. You should read it for yourself and then get
a copy for every couple you care about that is considering living together
without getting married. This well-researched and commonsense book could
save a lot of heartache. I highly recommend it.
Neil T. Anderson
In Christ Ministries
“I wouldn’t buy a car without driving it, so taking my potential
mate for a test drive only makes good sense.” This sounds like
a logical conclusion until you understand that our ways are not God’s
ways. My friend Dave Gudgel unwinds the logic of living together before
marriage, establishes how harmful it is to the couple and to society
and then shows a better way.
My daddy was a bookie. Being raised as a gambler’s kid, I understand
odds. I know not to bet very much on a long shot. Dave shows how living
together before marriage makes a successful marriage a long shot at best.
This book is a must-read for people of all ages who are seriously dating
and for those who have already put their future marriage at risk.
Wisdom begins with understanding the wisdom of God in our lives. Before
You Live Together gives you a taste of how wise God is. This is
a must-read for those who desire God’s blessing upon their marriage.
Pastor, Scottsdale Bible Church
Before You Live Together is an important, practical and easy-to-read
book. It is a valuable tool for those who are taking an honest look at
marriage. By evaluating the pros and cons of living together before marriage,
the book challenges current social trends and guides couples toward God’s
standards for happiness in relationships.
at Large, Hume Lake Christian Camps
This book is long overdue. Before You Live Together deals with
the cornerstone of a successful Christian marriage. I recommend it without
Emeritus, Hume Lake Christian Camps
I am currently 22 years old and finishing my last year in college. Before
I picked up this book, I believed I would never be ready for marriage.
Since then, I have learned that with the right preparation and guidance,
a true, life-lasting relationship between a man and a woman can still
exist in today’s society….Had I not read this book front
to back, I might have made the same mistake that most other couples make
- choosing co-habitation before marriage as a way to “make sure” or “save
money.”…There is now no doubt in my mind that I will not,
under any circumstance, choose to live with my partner before marriage.
It is no longer a lingering question or doubt running through my mind.
The evidence was provided. This book is incredible for anyone who has
not made up their mind yet about living together, or for those considering
A female college student
Thought it would interest you to know that our former neighbors called
a few weeks ago from Michigan. They were upset that their daughter’s
intent was to live with her boyfriend. We sent them Scripture references,
plus a copy of Before You Live Together. They wrote to say that the materials
helped the kids reach a decision to marry – in fact they were married
on March 5th!
A middle-aged parent
Just finished reading your new book. Well done! I’m going to give
it to a few couples I’m working with. Is there any way I can get
them quickly from you? I have a first session tomorrow night with a couple
who are already living together ….I have four weddings coming
up in the next few months and it seems every couple has jumped the boat.
Recently I was preaching and mentioned how frequently people lived together
today before marriage – we sold about 10 of your books after the
service….To date we have had 4 couples who were living together
now decide to get married! Great resource!!
I was given this book by a friend, and at first was a little hesitant
to read it. But once I got started it was definitely enjoyable. I would
categorize myself as an extremely critical reader, and this book passed
my test. The author does a good job of presenting evidence that is actually
fact and from credible sources, not just an author’s opinion. There
are good examples and stories throughout, making it an even better read.
I recommend it.
male college student
Before You Live Together
Author: Dr. Dave Gudgel
Regal Books • Trade Paper • 174 pages • September
Relationships • ISBN: 0830732527
Retail US Price• US $9.99
Before You Live Together
Author: Dr. Dave Gudgel
Simplified Chinese Translation Edition
ZDL Books, China • Trade Paper • 215 pages • January